I think it's up to you, if you want to go. Obviously it might not be a great idea if it's gonna upset anyone, but it's not about the internet - would you go if you'd known him through work..?

I don't often do funerals, not if i think others are more important. I wouldn't go to one if i though i wasn't entirely popular...

if its not a family only one you could go ,but if your uncomfortable with it just dont go , as it isn't going to bring him back.
,you do not have to attend funerals ,i myself hate them and only really attend family or close ones.

His wife or daughter doesn't know about us. I want them to believe everything was perfect. How do i get to say goodbye

Do what you want man.

Up to you really.
If you feel you'd like to pay your respects,then go.

You don't have to go to the funeral to say goodbye. You can do that wherever you like

I left my partner ten years ago for him and he was supposed to leave her but couldn't. I've never held that against him. He was a good man and i owe it to him that she would never know

He can't see or hear you at a funeral, he's dead and in a box. You said all you needed to say in your time with him. That's what he's taken. Funerals are for keeping up appearances among the crowd, showing those alive, and witnessing that the body really is being buried. Seeing that helps it sink in, helps closure, for some.

Uhhh...

I know he's gone. I'll do my grieving my way. Thank you. It is guilt that wanted me to go x