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@peta | 27 March 17 | |
@ tazdevil - 25.03.17 - 09:30am I did not have a restful sleep. I had a very dramatic dream about this girl who I was friends with in the past, but I ended my friendship with her late last year because she never used to respect my boundaries. Moreover, she was a little insulting, and quite pushy and dominating at times. She also lied about her job. She was very secretive about it, but in time, I found out the truth and lost all faith in her. So I decided to discontinue my friendship with her as it was a toxic/abusive friendship. Took me a very long time though, before I was finally able to find closure with her. Anyway, coming back to the dream. In the dream, she turned up at my house unannounced. RUDE. Then she hugged me, and told me how much she had missed me (which sounds SO sweet, but it seriously annoyed me) I excused myself, and went to the kitchen to ask my mom for advice. My mother said- well, she has made an effort and used the petrol to get here, be nice and make her feel welcome. So I'm like smiling/giggling and being nice to this girl (forced) but then I remember how she always apologizes first, and then goes back to square one (disrespectful, IMO) so I tell her to leave. At this point, she starts crying (and even begs lol) and I felt like an evil horrible HORRIBLE person. I actually woke up with a headache, worrying about it coming true. STRESSFUL. I know the chances of THAT happening are very slim, but that b*tch is crazy. You never know. Just interested to know, what would you do if someone was asking/begging you for another chance (knowing that they don't really change and always go back to square one) and how would you tackle a situation like that without feeling guilty or horrible? Dramatic is an understatement. If they're worth a chance -give it. If you see it's a pattern let it go. |
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@ladibud | 27 March 17 | |
@ tazdevil - 26.03.17 - 12:30am You're right. But I don't think I could find it in my heart to shut the door in their face or tell them to f*ck off. I think I'd entertain them. Get them out without creating a scene. Deal with it outside. It's more convenient breaking someone's spirit when your mom is not watching so she doesn't see what kind of a heartless monster she has raised. if someone treated me like s**t I wouldn't have to worry abt my mum thinking she raised a heartless monster, my mum probably wouldn't even let them past the gate lol. hurt and upset her kids she will rip it face off lol. so that wouldn't be a problem I'd have |
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@ladibud | 27 March 17 | |
i would let them in tho, hear them out, forgive them, but also explain that broken pieces never make a whole, so while there is no more anger or hurt, there is also no trust and warmth left either. wish them well and say goodbye
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@tazdevil | 28 March 17 | |
Actually my mom doesn't know the full story. She had asked me several times what EXACTLY happened, why things got SO ugly between us etc, but I try not to go into details. I better not tell her everything as some of the things involve sex and drugs which my mother would not understand or appreciate You know, I'm polite to a fault. So I'd let them in too, if they showed up like that. But I wouldn't keep them in false hopes if I'm convinced the person cannot change. If they persisted, I would remain polite. At an EXTREME provocation, shut the door in their face. B*tch, GTFO lol |
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@phallica | 28 March 17 | |
If they're consistently lessening the quality of your life, nix it.
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