WEIGH YOUR WORDS
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When a glass is broken, the sound of breaking disappears immediately where as the glass pieces are scattered over the ground hurting whoever walks over it.
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Similarly, when we say something that hurts people emotions and feelings, the voice disappears immediately but the hearts remains in pain for long.
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Therefore, don't say anything, except good and remember always the nine advises and prohibitions that Allah All Mighty gave us in Surah Al Hujuraat before we say something to anyone:
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1- :
Fa Tabayyanoo- Investigate:
if we received any information lest we harm people out of ignorance.
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2 - :
Fa Aslihoo - Make settlement: between your brothers as believers are brothers.
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3- :
Wa Aqsitoo- Act justly: whenever there is a dispute try for settlement and act justly among both parties as Allah loves who acts justly.
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4 - :
La Yaskhar - do not ridicule: people, perhaps they may be better than you to Allah.
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5 - :
Wa La Talmizoo- Do not insult: one another.
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6- :
Wa La Tanabazu- Do not call offensive nicknames: each other.
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7- :
Ijtanibu Katheeran minazZan- avoid negative assumptions, indeed some of the assumptions are sin.
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8 - :
Wa La Tajas-sasu- and don't spy on each other.
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9- :
Wa La Yagtab- Do not backbite each other:
as its a major sin and like eating your dead brother's flesh.
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As was said
When looking for faults we must use a mirror not a telescope.
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