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@eyesore | 5 April 19 | |
@ crail - 5.04.19 - 02:16am It doesn't matter if you cant get there. Dont feel bad. It doesn't make you a bad person. I never got to a few funerals. I'm sure you have good memories to end on And this |
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@1clivey1 | 5 April 19 | |
also light a candal for them on the day
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@iilmadme | 5 April 19 | |
It isnt about a sense of duty or the type of person i am.on this occasion i felt i needed it for closure,for me.to try n make sense of it
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@mikeymk | 5 April 19 | |
@ iilmadme - 5.04.19 - 01:43am Does this make sense to anyone? No. 1) He's not there. 2) The people who are there were properly in his life. They met him regularly. They're family who had Christmas dinner with him, depended on him and vice versa. Friends who drank beer with him, argued, put themselves on the line for him, etc. People who knew him for all the things he wouldn't say about himself online. They properly knew him. 3) Did I mention he's not there? Whatever you had with him, that's what you have. It's all there is left. Going and mixing with those people today might not be the greatest idea, all things considered. Because it's only they who are there. |
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@xivanax | 5 April 19 | |
As long as you never forget them. My dads funeral went by so so fast it was just a blur. Cant remember much of that day. But thats not what counts. Its the little flashes of happiness. The memories. Soon enough its only the good stuff that remains with ya. And am sure your friend will understand. Sorry for your loss. Take care
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@ladibud | 5 April 19 | |
@ iilmadme - 5.04.19 - 01:37am I cant get to my mate's funeral tomorrow.an online friendship of well over a decade.i never got to meet him for real.it'd probably upset me like crazy.it's too far for me to travel alone...ugh im so gutted.cant sleep it's maybe best that you can't go. it was an online friendship and you don't know how those close to him in real life would react. besides that though... he is dead. he isn't there. he will however always be alive in your memories. have your own memorial service and a drink to their memory. you can find closure and honour him and his friendship and find closure by having a quiet personal and solo ''service''. go and do something you know he enjoyed doing. |
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@iilmadme | 5 April 19 | |
On facebook his family approached us for tributes and said they were finding how well loved he was comforting.some of our stuff will be read out today.we were invited.i think one of is will attend,plenty more would have liked to |
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@freshdeadlyroses | 5 April 19 | |
I'm sure there will be other people there his family don't know.. they likely won't know you are 'just' an online friend unless you tell them. I don't see any reason you shouldn't go if you want to, if you think that person would have wanted you there. If you can't, of course you shouldn't feel bad. I don't buy all the bs about online friendships not being real, and no one being who they are. Plenty of people are out there being exactly who they are. Online or otherwise. Don't feel bad, whatever you decide.
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@freshdeadlyroses | 5 April 19 | |
@ iilmadme - 5.04.19 - 12:05pm On facebook his family approached us for tributes and said they were finding how well loved he was comforting.some of our stuff will be read out today.we were invited.i think one of is will attend,plenty more would have liked to That's how my friends family was with her online friends as well. |
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@ladibud | 5 April 19 | |
@ iilmadme - 5.04.19 - 12:05pm On facebook his family approached us for tributes and said they were finding how well loved he was comforting.some of our stuff will be read out today.we were invited.i think one of is will attend,plenty more would have liked to that's lovely... you still don't have to feel bad. he is wherever those are who loved and cared for him. just do something on your own dedicate to him. |
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