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Six years later and am still grieving over a loved one though not on a daily basis as it was during the initial stages. |
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@1tel | 17 February 20 | |
Seek for help and was told it was a disorder.How does griefing over someone you loved turn into a disorder?
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@1tel | 17 February 20 | |
So is there a fixed time frame over which one should grief before it is considered a disorder.
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@sourface | 17 February 20 | |
Wtf there is no time limit.
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@meta1bar | 17 February 20 | |
It never stops mate
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@dan27notts | 17 February 20 | |
@ 1tel - 17.02.20 - 08:30am Seek for help and was told it was a disorder.How does griefing over someone you loved turn into a disorder? If it continually affects you to the extent where it impacts on your day to day life then that is what will class it as a disorder. |
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@mikeymk | 17 February 20 | |
I just don't suffer from this. Observing from the outside, there seems to be a few factors involved; Guilt - you didn't say or do all the things you wish you did, and now you can't. Expectation - it's as if there's pressure to be so adversely affected by someone's passing. Selfishness - you grieve largely for what you personally have lost. Addiction - as much as worry, anxiety and depression are addictive, so is compulsive grievance. But everyone will just leave you to spiral into deep greivance, not recognising it as a mental health issue. People are visitors, a part of mother nature's evolutionary concept, we're born and we die. Nobody is yours. Nobody ever belonged to you and you have no right to their life. I wonder if these modern times, where we spoil ourselves with everything we want, make it harder for some to grasp this.. There is no promised timescale. The maximum is about 100yrs but most are gone by 60. Two ironies spring to mind; 1 - that people will focus so much on the dead that they don't make the most of the living. Then make the same mistake again. 2 - if you loved that person, it makes far more sense to live for them, instead of share their death. Go send their message. Do what they'd want you to. A deceased lover would want you to love again, but people will waste their life seeking permission.. Close it. Take the good, leave the bad, raise a glass and move on with their chapter a positive building block in your own life. |
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@sourface | 17 February 20 | |
I like that.
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@1tel | 17 February 20 | |
@ mikeymk - 17.02.20 - 09:47am I just don't suffer from this. Observing from the outside, there seems to be a few factors involved; Guilt - you didn't say or do all the things you wish you did, and now you can't. Expectation - it's as if there's pressure to be so adversely affected by someone's passing. Selfishness - you grieve largely for what you personally have lost. Addiction - as much as worry, anxiety and depression are addictive, so is compulsive grievance. But everyone will just leave you to spiral into deep greivance, not recognising it as a mental health issue. People are visitors, a part of mother nature's evolutionary concept, we're born and we die. Nobody is yours. Nobody ever belonged to you and you have no right to their life. I wonder if these modern times, where we spoil ourselves with everything we want, make it harder for some to grasp this.. There is no promised timescale. The maximum is about 100yrs but most are gone by 60. Two ironies spring to mind; 1 - that people will focus so much on the dead that they don't make the most of the living. Then make the same mistake again. 2 - if you loved that person, it makes far more sense to live for them, instead of share their death. Go send their message. Do what they'd want you to. A deceased lover would want you to love again, but people will waste their life seeking permission.. Close it. Take the good, leave the bad, raise a glass and move on with their chapter a positive building block in your own life. Great.thanks! |
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@eyesore | 17 February 20 | |
@ 1tel - 17.02.20 - 08:28am Six years later and am still grieving over a loved one though not on a daily basis as it was during the initial stages. I think it very much depends on who you lose, some people you never really get over it, you just learn to live with it |
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@wolf1v36 | 17 February 20 | |
@ 1tel - 17.02.20 - 08:28am Six years later and am still grieving over a loved one though not on a daily basis as it was during the initial stages. We never get over losing a loved one mate, it is always there, there is no time limit for grieving, take as lng as it takes,. Prolonged grief a disorder? I have not heard such a load of baloney in my life! I hope that you find comfort in mikeys lovely words. |
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