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@piggle | 12 August 18 | |
Ehhh, yourself. Do you know why you rejected her?
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@peta | 12 August 18 | |
Im pretty sure shes still hurt and a way to snoooth over that hurt is to yall it through now that youre both outside of the situation. I really feel that its closure she seeks. Now shes at s place where she can express certain things to you that are dare to her without feeling spent or stuck in her emotions about it. I feel she just needed you to know how she felt and shes syill curious as to whats going on with you etc., because thats natural to have those thoughts about someone you loved dearly. They say only the person that inflicts pain can take it away, its that kinda thing. She needs to feel relieved of hurt and pain and any ill ideas or intentions previously harbored. She wants to make sure she healthy get past the whole thing. For her possibly either just spilling the beans or just rather have you as a friend or nothing st all. The hurt and disappointment was great, but maybe you guys had and underlying and fundamental friendship that she misses. All women are different, but from a womans point of view, when shes had enough shes had enough and she wants it no more. Losing a friend is hard though. Still sounds like closure for her to me tho. |
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@say.what | 12 August 18 | |
I didn't start the topic to cry or whinge about breaking up, i would have made that topic in December (believe me I considered it)..... I'm just trying to get some opinions on what could be going on at the moment and how best to deal with it
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@peta | 12 August 18 | |
@ say.what - 12.08.18 - 05:20pm Maybe he needed to start the motorcycle so he could get to work and pay for her surprise holiday Take the fu*king train, bus, cab, get a lift..be resourceful and still pay for that fu*king holiday. |
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@say.what | 12 August 18 | |
@ piggle - 12.08.18 - 05:27pm Ehhh, yourself. Do you know why you rejected her? I don't feel that I did, we were just moving at different speeds, and she took that as rejection |
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@mikeymk | 12 August 18 | |
You don't have to look to far into that meme, it's just to show how women totally over-think everything, and men are relatively ignorant.
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@piggle | 12 August 18 | |
@ say.what - 12.08.18 - 05:33pm I don't feel that I did, we were just moving at different speeds, and she took that as rejection Well, put yourself in her position. Bearing in mind for a woman to ask a man to marry them is still fairly unorthodox, she really put herself out there. Women are far more emotionally intuitive, you've grown up being told putting your emotions out there was for puffs. You still feel hurt, rejection, sadness just the same but exhibit it badly, or worse, oblivious to the trouble it causes you |
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@say.what | 12 August 18 | |
@ peta - 12.08.18 - 05:27pm Im pretty sure shes still hurt and a way to snoooth over that hurt is to yall it through now that youre both outside of the situation. I really feel that its closure she seeks. Now shes at s place where she can express certain things to you that are dare to her without feeling spent or stuck in her emotions about it. I feel she just needed you to know how she felt and shes syill curious as to whats going on with you etc., because thats natural to have those thoughts about someone you loved dearly. They say only the person that inflicts pain can take it away, its that kinda thing. She needs to feel relieved of hurt and pain and any ill ideas or intentions previously harbored. She wants to make sure she healthy get past the whole thing. For her possibly either just spilling the beans or just rather have you as a friend or nothing st all. The hurt and disappointment was great, but maybe you guys had and underlying and fundamental friendship that she misses. All women are different, but from a womans point of view, when shes had enough shes had enough and she wants it no more. Losing a friend is hard though. Still sounds like closure for her to me tho. I think this could be right.. The last text I sent said I just want her to be happy, so hopefully that will give her the freedom or closure.... It's also probably the answer that I want to be wrong... |
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@say.what | 12 August 18 | |
@ piggle - 12.08.18 - 05:37pm Well, put yourself in her position. Bearing in mind for a woman to ask a man to marry them is still fairly unorthodox, she really put herself out there. Women are far more emotionally intuitive, you've grown up being told putting your emotions out there was for puffs. You still feel hurt, rejection, sadness just the same but exhibit it badly, or worse, oblivious to the trouble it causes you Yeah but I didn't ask her to ask me lol... I was just happy with the way things were moving along organically... Her friends were all getting married and I think that added pressure |
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@piggle | 12 August 18 | |
I've spent the past 2 years rumbling about in my past, with my partner, to figure out why we were the way we were. We reflected and acknowledged and changed. Both our lives done a 180. Out of poverty, multiple streams of income, great relationship, happier and much healthier. Don't dismiss the power of some internal investigation and the attitude change that comes with it. And yes, all this wanky sh*t is what it all boils down to. Knowing who and what you are and how you affect those around you |
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