I think there is a time and a place for both. Sometimes nothing beats a good hard fck, other times you want to be sensual and bring about climax after climax. To me both are essential in a healthy s*x life.

Indeed there is a time and place especially for s*x..But don't you think everything shouldn't be just in the bedroom only,imagine I am in the elevator at work and am really in the mood and had been h*rny all morning,and my bf is right there with me.We start kissing and playing with each other and that's sensual enough,till he pulls my skirt up,unbuttons his pants,drops me panties,lifts me to his hips and fks me right there and then....I'd love it and wouldn't have to wait till I get home to get laid...and if I did get home seeing him again and what we did earlier will onlt make me want to make thingsspecial with him in the bedroom:)so much for creativity:) x x x

Totally agree, if you're in the mood and the opportunity is there then make the most of it. Spontaneity is key to any great s*x. Surprise and variety is what can heighten any experience and then your climax might be more exhilarating both at the time and later on. I think you and i have very similar ideas :) x x x

Yes I'd miss the comfort zone of the bedroom where its just the two of us and no1 is watching.Imagine in the elevator,we have cameras all over at the workplace.It would simply turn me or him on just being watched.Being spontaneous is good but it could also be asking for trouble:)a hefty fine etc but we get away most often cos its the most natural thing in the world.Imagine the person watching us in the elevator,what it would mean for him if he isn't getting s*x at all or much worse...he would also benefit with what my bf and I just experienced in the elevator...

Definitely being watched and filmed is a huge turn on, as is doing the watching. Seeing 2 real people (as opposed to p0rn) fking is both beautiful and highly stimulating, especially for someone who isn't getting laid lol xx

I'd want a copy of that recording to watch back as we fked later on x x x

fking as in not getting laid?I can have s*x everyday but its not the same as making love...I prefer to savour the moment...make it last...I'd like it fast too but honestly speaking,I prefer him worshipping my body all the way to my soul,fking me hardc*re would just end there...I want much more..

Have to agree with you :) xx

We may have similiar view on certain topics,how many of us actually go out there and experiment our ideas and thoughts?Why do we hold back what gives us so much pleasure?Our wants and needs are just as important,it plays a major role in our lives and keeps us fit and healthy too x x x

Yup you're absolutely right. And when i was younger i did pursue all my ideas and fantasies. As i have got older i have become less active, although the ideas are still just as prominent. I think you need the right person to follow these thoughts and actions with you. You for example x x x

We all have strange fantasies regarding our s*xual needs.It varies amongst us just like the food we eat:)our choices!tastes etc...I like my food hot and my men hotter.Not just any man would do it for me.He must have the perfect looks(I know looks don't matter)even when he is not touching me,he must be able to give me that tingly feeling,those butterflies in my tummy,that weakness at my knees just by looing into my eyes,and by his smile.He must be able to make love to me with his eyes,torture me helplessly,so that I beg to be touched,and when does,he mustnt fumble to get inside me or rush to reach the end...its not a race....we have to express of s*xual desires in such a way,that we long for more within minutes of a climax...

Sounds great!! x x x

It's definitely a marathon not a sprint x x x

During my younger days I had my fair share of making love the *straight forward*way.I suddenly got bored...then I realised with my phd I could do much more lol,why settle for less?I got it in me,so I decided to learn,to experiment my my own body,my needs.Yes!You do need the right partner for this...I guess I am a few of lucky people who has had the best choices in my s*xual experiences(refers to my blogs)He is understanding and ready to explore anything that I wanted to do...and I with him.Our s*xual lives are very fulfilling(not bragging).There is always something new to learn tho.Its not about having the right partner:)but being the right partner....

Or you can have a teacher to show you what you have missed out on x x x

Honestly speaking,I learnt from my wap buddy,B(won't use his full name)He taught me about phone s*x in the early years of my marriage just because I was intrigued and also bored.He taught me that I could use more than just my fingers to please myself,that I should love my body,the way it looks and feels.B and I have never met in real..through his calls...(Phones*x)I wanted him to teach me more and he did,as I was a willing student,his best I became within weeks,demanding more and more lessons,and he was ever ready to give me lessons,stealing time away from his work.In order to have a good teacher,one should be a good student aswell...works both ways..

I have always been eager to learn x x x

You can't just be eager to learn,are you willing to go through all your fantasies/desires without falling for the teacher.You need to experiment things with your teacher with *no limits* and *no expectations*from him/her.You have to bare your soul and trust your teacher implicitly...

I would trust you x x x

Trust is the most important factor whether its in a marriage,or friendship/relationship.If you can't trust,you are not willing to learn,to submit yourself,give in to your needs.Yes you will also need some sort of inspiration to learn....