I saw only myself or may be few other man who said and indicated in profile on internet that i am a married man and middle aged man means 46 year old man, and thats why i had to face questions like does'nt your wife minds?, as u are chating with females over the network? , also a married woman once told me that where if we were real life frnds than she wud hv lost her reputation in real life, so a question bites my concious even though im nt doing anything immoral or lieing or cheating to my wife in real life or others on wap life, so i want u ppls opinion that is it sumthing wrong to do frndship with females being a married man?

In otherthan monogamy system a man keeps more than one wife and if that system in sum society and religion is nt considered as immoral or wrong thing to do than why this kinda chating and romanceing by a married man should be nagged by ppls?

Because i am placeing this topic takeing my ownself's example and question, whatever the answer or reply to these questions i put, its always taken as my excuses, so i want other ppls opinion about these questions, else its not my question or problem only.

I did put this topic in a other site, but didnt get matured ppls to chat debate and place opinion upto the mark over there, so i am trying the same topic here, thinking may be i get some matured ppls here to chat debate and give there opinion to me over here on this topic. Ty.

The internet, as we all know, is a very effective means of communication which helps in our daily activities irrespective of our location on earth. The human being is known to have obviously many faces, and amongst this faces are the ability to try something new or adapt to change. When online, the subconscious mind indicates safety, coupled with less risks. Having a relationship online is the New World Order for this present age, its not dirty as some think, and not so clean too, it all depends on the individual. Personally, i believe you've got to refrain from such relationships for the sake of your marriage, its health is disturbed and i advice you to love your wife as she does love you. Be totally faithful, dont share your heart with noone but her.

Thank you for ur opinion, but need more things to chat in this subject, i am nt a kinda man who shares heart in that real sensitive way coz im nt of that nature but along with that shortcoming of mine i hv a quality true heart and i am a gurantee for my wife for lifetime whatever happens, coz i see my wife as my son's and daughter's mother and some one's daughtr or sister also, its nt a question of my dissatisfaction or unsatisfaction regarding my wife, neither its a question of filling her place by another one, but by being so true to e1, why cant i enjoy worlds best females just for the first step only? , e1 does it sheepishly and i am just doing it publicaly by nt hideing my true self as a married man! , isnt it safe for e1?

As u said i must refrain frm relationship and shouldnt give my heart or shouldt love by heart anyone else but my wife, well.... If u read my 1st post u can see that i said i am limiting myself to the first step only, and my defination of 1st step in the frndship with females and thats all, but though my concious bites coz ppls asks me questions as i said in my prev posts as above, in the name of simple frndship ppls enjoy the same thing as i do, but i dont think or belive that a male female frndship cant be as simple as other kinda frndship as i feel joy of s*x of primery stage when i do frndship with females, what do u say as ur opinion? Is it simple frndship without mixture of s*x in a frndship between male and female?

I made a mistake in my above post's writing, so plz correct and read as i dont think that a male female friendship .C.A.N be as simple as other kind simple friendships .Ty.

Regarding faith honesty etc there are highest standereds set in worlds religions and as far as i kno its also a characterless if one commited by a marrage, thinks even a liltel bit s*x about other one and himself, but no one can centpercent fulfill those highest standereds set by supreme wit, so looking to that i feel lilbit my concious biteing when i come in contact with my choice of female person over the internet as a frndship with her which as i said according to my thinking is the 1st step towards s*xual relation. By the way so far i came to choose only about 12 females of my choice out of lots i came into contact over the internet chat sites and nothing immoral i chat or did with them, they are standered females., did i do anything wrong being a married man?

In indian religion and culture of ancient times, only perticular class of females use to dance and sing and entertain others by that kinda art and they where named as ganiika or nachnewali and they were seen littel bit of low class compared to normal females of the society then, but now in this era the same art is seen as higher and extraordinary quality of a female of the society, so with the changeing world when that thing is nt viewed as low class behaviour than why frndship over net with females should be seen with a view of low class characteless behaviour of my kinda married man?

When ppls in difficult and problematic situation than they start concerning and takeing care of eachother and when no difficulty and problems than ppl be away and disconcerned to eachother by being self centered, developing and undeveloped country ppls are faceing many problems and difficulties by means of economy etc kinda things and so their nature gets brought up as careing concerning and bothering for eachother kinda personel nature of the ppls of my kinda countries or say asian and african kinda coutries and thus we ppls are giving out our impression to the rest of the world's ppls as if we are over concerning over careing and over bothering kinda ppls, but as i said above there is reason for us to be like that coz we are in situation that we need eachother more compared to developed country ppls,

As for example if developed country's ppls are settled in underdeveloped or developeing country for the life long time than such ppls would also ought to be of the same personel nature as we are and times will make them the same kinda ppls as we are, also where if we are settled in developed country than we also gonna be or would ought to be of the same personel nature as they are, so at the end of the day what i came to the conclusion that afterall we are the same human beings but hv adopted to the life and living of the situations and cir tances of our related nature of the places where we are brought up.

Hey frnds, again i made a mistake and put my above two posts here instead of puting them in my another topic named as (missunderstood impression...)

Okay, now coming back to the main subject of this topic, i am puting my real life experience just for example, what happened once that i was given a written transfer order to work as a cleark in a ministers office and when i 1st went to resume there, the guard denied me to let me enter the office building on the basis of my transfer and posting order and asked me to bring a visiting pass to enter in.....

.......And i kept on argueing that i am nt a visitor but hv came to resume my duty as a cleark in this office and u should let me go in on the basis of my transfer order, and he denied. As visiting hours were also over by then i was nt geting visiting card to enter in, so i told the guard that if nt gonna let me in than i will go back to my original office frm where i hv been releaved frm and a phone call will be made to minister's office that u didnt let me in, so the guard also thought that unnecessary problem will arise, so what he did that he show me a backdoor way frm where many ppls where going in and out without any guard man checking, and asked me to go in to the office frm there, and i laughed to much and guard also laughed with me and i entered in frm back door and resumed my duty there and served for more than one year, always when the same guardman and me come to see eachother by chance than we use to laugh remembering that backdoor entry when i 1st came to resume my duty.....

.....By puting my real life experience as above just for a example, what i want to say that many times society and ppls works like that guard man, and they let me do frndship with other females if i dont say that the frndship with female is a 1st step towards s*xual relationship, what ppls and society wants that just say that its a simple frndship as like as other frndships and carry on from the back door, and what i want to say that why cant i do frndship with other females by limiting myself at the 1st step towards s*xual relationship and it may be called as a calculated risk also.

Whenever i put this topic 4 talk nd to get opinion, many frnds start doubting that i must be having some problem regarding my wife or must be not likeing her, so let me clear that its nt so atall, as far as i know my family history back to last 100 years there is nt a single case of divorce or second marrage in my direct family till today, and im to continue the same traditional record....

I am ok with my wife and my wife is ok with me, but i want to be friends with other females of my choice from international level just upto the primary or say 1st step of the male-female relationship or say frndship with females, can not i ? , should not i ? Your opinion plz:)

AsK ur wife..if she lets ya then go 4 it..bt if nt then b happy wv wot u gOt..and stop being selfish..x u should b greatful u hav a Lovein family...isnt tat wot evry1 wants...x

Nadia, thanks for ur opinion, but my wife dont know what wap and internet chating is !! , and also she has full faith in me, and i also garuntee that no one gonna take her place as my wife on this earth, and i am nt doing more than frndship with females over internet sites, and i am nt being selfish anyway as i do nt hide anything, so why can not i be frnds with females over the internet? , all are doing it and why can not i ?!!