Let me take the case of lonely hearts pages. Single guy searching for single lady, single lady searchin lady searching for single guy. Why don't they look at each other? Why does one have to search for love far out, ignore what's right infront of you? You are looking for that someone out there who you believe is searching for you, prob is if that were true, practicall you will both be waiting for each other and never meet. My advice, do not ignore what's right infront of you.