We've heard songs about it, seen it in the movies, heard it talked about on Oprah by relationship experts, and read about it in thousands of self help books. But, what is unconditional love? We all want to feel loved. We think about it, hope for it, fantasize about it, go to great lengths to achieve it, and feel that our lives are incomplete without it. The lack of unconditional love is the cause of most of our anger and confusion. It is no exaggeration to say that our emotional need for unconditional love is just as great as our physical need for air and food.

It is especially unfortunate, then, that most of us have no idea what unconditional love really is, and we prove our ignorance with our horrifying divorce rate, the incidence of alcohol and drug addiction in our country, the violence in our schools, and our overflowing jails.

Our misconceptions of unconditional love began in early childhood, where we saw that when we did all the right thingswhen we were clean, quiet, obedient and otherwise goodpeople loved us. They smiled at us and spoke in gentle tones. But we also saw that when we were bad, all those signs of love instantly vanished. In short, we were taught by consistent experience that love was conditional, that we had to buy love from the people around us with our words and behavior.

So whats wrong with conditional love? We see it everywhere we look, so what could be wrong with it? Imagine that every time you pay me fifty dollars, I tell you I love you. We could do that all day, but at the end of the day would you feel loved? No, because youd know that I loved you only because you paid me. We simply cant feel fulfilled by love we pay for. We can feel loved only when it is freely, unconditionally given to us. The instant we do anything at all to win the approval or respect of other peoplewith what we say, what we do, how we lookwe are paying for the attention and affection we receive, and we cant feel genuinely loved.

Theres only one kind of love that can fill us up, make us whole, and give us the happiness we all want: unconditional love or true love. It is unconditional love that we all seek, and somehow we intuitively realize that anything other than that kind of love isnt really love at allits an imitation of the real thing.

Unconditional lovetrue loveis so different from the kind of love most of us have known all our lives that it deserves both a nameReal Loveand definition of its own: Real Love is caring about the happiness of another person without any thought for what we might get for ourselves. Its also Real Love when other people care about our happiness unconditionally. It is not Real Love when other people like us for doing what they want. Under those conditions were just paying for love again. We can be certain that were receiving Real Love only when we make foolish mistakes, when we fail to do what other people want, and even when we get in their way, but they dont feel disappointed or irritated at us. That is Real Love (true unconditional love), and that love alone has the power to heal all wounds, bind people together, and create relationships quite beyond our present capacity to imagine.

The real lover is the man who can thrill you by kissing your forehead or smiling into your eyes or just staring into space.

who can shine and refresh your life like a morning,

and, who will never provide you the sad darkness of an evening.

He is your real lover,

who on your eyes will never bring a drop of tear,

and, truly whom you can always call as your dearest dear. [_]

He is your real lover,

who is most reliable to you, without any doubt,

and, who can't stay sans you or whom you can't live without. :)

He is your real lover,

who can touch your heart before touching your skin,

who can always protect you from any black & unwanted sin. ;)

He is your real lover,

who will be your friend, philosopher and guide,

and, who will love you before and after making you his bride !!

He is your real lover,

who loves you more than your bank balance,

whom you can feel very near to you, even also in his absence !!

He is your real lover,

who can share his whole rose blood heart,

or, whom without hesitation you can allow to touch your shirt :)

He is your real lover,

who will never in front of you close his door