Hello friendz, let's share our koncernz, opinionz, ideaz n any komment freely. Let's encourage, advise n support one another through this topik... Tomorrow, i will share my thoughts on this issue.

We cn end any form ov violnce en domestc violnce is 1 ov dem

Yea, dats veeery true, Trina. It's so sad dat violence still exists in this generation

Like i promised yesterday, dat i will share my thoughts n koncernz on this issue, i will do so right now

Just like everything else, domestik violence also haz an origin. It starts with a verbal abuse, then a threat, then a slap, then slaps, then a beating, then beatingz, n progresses on until da viktim is killed!..

So, what do u do when u find out dat ur partner is abusive?.. I believe da best way is to leave da abuser once she/he gets violent. It might nt b easy, but giving them space , n let them b aware of their problem is better than staying. They need to know dat they hav a problem, haz to change if they want u back.

Many timez though, people stay in abusive relationships bekoz 1). They hope their partner would change.. 2). For da sake of their marriage.. 3). For da sake of their children.. 4.) or they think da one who haz a problem is them, not da abuser

Now to da above points.. 1.) anyone kan change if they know they have a problem n they know n want to change n they r ready to. We kan't change them. It's them to decide

2). Yea, u took vows dat 'till death do us part'. But it didnt mean u should stick to ur abusive partner until he killz u. Da 'death' part in da vows haz a different meaning. Plzzzz don't take chances in having ur life cut short.

3.). It might sound like a good idea for ur children to have a mother/father figure. But do u think ur children feel safe n happy to live with an abusive parent? NO. They feel afraid, resentment, sad....they don't know what's going to happen when dat abusive parent kamz back home every evening. Plus, chances of them praktizing what they see are high. Nobody wants abusive children, right?

4.) u have no right to be abused by ur partner. U have no right to be allowed to be abused. U have no right to remain living wit ur abusive partner. If u allow it, dats where u have a problem. But da problem all through is ur abusive partner.. Leave dat partner n let her/him handle da problem wit da help of counsellorz, or da court

5. I forgot this other reason. Some stay wit their abusive partnerz bekoz they r afraid to start over again, without them.. Dat may be a hard thing to do but it's possible. And it's better live in a house knowing u r safe in it

Most Afrikan kommunitiez believe dat wivez should be disciplined for any miskonduct. Dat waz allowed ages ago. This is a new era. There'z gender equality, respekt of human rights irrespektive of gender, race, etc,.. And no matter how bad ur wife might have behaved, DO NOT TAKE DA LAW INTO UR HANDZ. If it's somethn small, n u have a bad temper, go out 4 a walk to cool off or listen to slow musik alone. Then when u r ok, go back n discuss ur issuez peacefully like two adults.. If it's a big issue, involve mediatorz. If it kan't be solved, well, go to da court. But just DON'T SLAP, BEAT, CURSE, THREATEN, ETC UR PARTNER.. Do unto otherz what u would like be done unto u.

...These are just my personal views. They are from my heart n i hope it reached all people's hearts. Let's have a violence free world. And ur opinionz are welcome. Urz Truly, GOLDEN

preach on ga...seriously dis has becom lik da most hurting din in Kenyaq.coz wow!dis killing r 2 much....

I di*nk s as a result of blind marrieges...marring a person blindly....n as life goes on boom!! 1 hitz da wall!!! as a result 1 realizes dat him/her s nt de 1....dey get boxed out!!!

Homes r neva safe ths days.men,we nid 2style up en bhev lyk civilised adults

Buzz yes man pipo marry widout knowin their lover wel enaf en their lovers fake who they rily r

I think so da same, Buzz.. During courtship, people don't show who they r. And at dat time, all they do is try to plz each other by faking their character instead of being real..when they get married, dats when they bkam real n they wonder: how kam my wife/husband haz changed? Truth is, they changed when they met us n, who they r now is what they truly are.

That's true, Calsah.. Any violent person need to know how to kontrol their temper. Anger problem is what mostly drivez them to kommit such brutal akts...